I Thessalonians 4:11,12 – “Learning Quietness”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

… But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more, ¹¹and to make it [your] ambition to be quiet, and to mind your own [business], and to work with your hands, just as we commanded you, ¹²that you might walk becomingly toward those outside, and [that] you might have need of nothing [or no one].

Wow has this been a fun week. I have really enjoyed doing my work while trying to stay quiet inside. It is DIFFERENT, for sure. In some ways I feel like I just stepped out into air. On the other hand, it is a very secure, confident thing, knowing this change was drawn from the wells of grace. The same Lord who tells me to be quiet also says “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart.” As always, His truth comes with a very sweet sense of balance. It doesn’t make us cuckoo. It makes us better.

I hope it’s not true that I just happened not to be that busy this week. I don’t think that’s the case as I had days where, as usual, work seemed to come in faster than I could do it. But this week I just tried to stay quiet inside and keep pulling out the next thing, working on it as much as I could or as much as I actually needed to, then moving on to the next thing. I believe I was able to leave on Friday with things under control. I was able to “get things done” while I think I really did manage to stay quiet inside most of the week.  Time will tell, but my heart tells me this is real, that it is a grace change.

The wonderful thing is when changes like this really do come from the Lord. As I mentioned above, He really does keep things in balance. I recently happened upon some clips from the old 70’s TV show “Kung Fu” with David Carradine. I was reminded how he portrayed how orientals typically value a quiet spirit. Being “quiet” inside or “serene” is of course very oriental, being taught in things like Yoga and Transcendental Meditation, etc. Carradine’s character Caine was a Shaolin monk and always stayed very calm, even when he was karate chopping some bully or thug. I am thinking we all find this oriental idea very attractive, but we never quite know how to pull it off and still get anything done. We can’t see how to accomplish the balance. I guess what I’m saying is that I feel like that is exactly what the Lord has taught me – how to do both. So maybe the next time I am karate chopping some bully or thug, I can do it quietly(!).

I have very deeply enjoyed reading the comments of the old Reformed pastors. Today’s commentators just rush by these verses and see little to comment on. The old guys went on for paragraphs! There was a time when the church valued the quiet hard work of common people and, when they came across verses like this, they had much to say to commend them. It is sad that we have so totally lost that. It is interesting to me too to read the thoughts of people who lived in a culture that could see through our American fascination with frenzy. One old guy was discussing how this very resolve to hard-working quietness leaves one balancing between “idleness” and “busy-ness.” Surprisingly, he said, “I’d rather err to the side of being idle than of being too busy.” That statement itself almost caught me off-guard. It is down-right unsettling. “Err to the side of being too idle???” Ye gads, Heaven forbid! We can’t risk the possibility of letting 20 seconds slip by without cramming it full of busy-ness, can we??? … or can we? Maybe he’s right. Maybe in our mad rush, we end up doing less than we really could have. Maybe we miss the things that really should have been done. Maybe we miss what really mattered after all.

I’m reminded of Louie L’Amour’s words, “The trail is the thing, not the end of the trail. Travel too fast and you miss everything you’re traveling for.”

Another quote comes to mind, “Time is significant, but the realization it is unimportant is the gateway to wisdom.”

My daughter Esther spent two or three weeks in England recently as part of a sort of mini-exchange student situation. She is actually a teacher and was one of the adults taking a group of middle-school students to England to actually attend their school and see how they do things. One of the things that amazed Esther was how they are always taking breaks. Always. Constantly. Several times a day. She observed that their culture simply isn’t in a hurry. I remember hearing that, thinking to myself it is probably a far better way to live, but not knowing how to be like that and still get anything done! With the teaching of I Thes 4:11,12, I think I am beginning to understand.

As I’ve studied, I even ran across a quote from a most unlikely source, The Advanced Textbook of Geology:

Here, then, [in the quiet action of wind and waves] we may observe great effects produced without fuss, and we may easily observe, in the phenomena of social life, that there are plenty of illustrations there of the same principle. The whirlwind of revolutions and hurricane of insurrections have no doubt produced startling consequences. But the influence of noble ideas, spoken by undemonstrative men, or embalmed in unpretending volumes, and of pious lives lived in seclusion, has produced a far greater effect upon the civilization of the world than all the blustering storms of war raised by kings and factions and reverberating through history.

That obviously is not an American textbook!

Such good truths to learn!

God is not in the tornado. I’d like to write a book with that title.

All very, very interesting to me.

This is fun!

I Thessalonians 4:11,12 – “Quietness and Minding My Own Business”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

… But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more, ¹¹and to make it [your] ambition to be quiet, and to mind your own [business], and to work with your hands, just as we commanded you, ¹²that you might walk becomingly toward those outside, and [that] you might have need of nothing [or no one].

Interesting here that the Lord tells us to “make it our ambition” to be quiet and to mind our own business. It is a good thing with the Bible to pause over words and ponder them. In this case, I’m looking at this word “philotimos.” “Make it your ambition” is a good modern translation. The old KJV translated it “study.” The word expresses the idea that I have set my heart on some goal and that, with determination, I steadily work toward it. It almost always has a positive connotation.

What if we were to do a “fill in the blank?” What if we asked ourselves, or a whole group of Christians for that matter, to fill in the blank, “God wants us to make it our ambition to __________.” What would you write in there? Would we not all be surprised to hear that the correct answer was “to be quiet and mind your own business?” Really? I can almost hear the “Yeah, buts.” No “yeah, but.” That is God’s answer.

Looking at this verse, I ran across an interesting quote from an old English minister, H. J. W. Buxton: “In religious work preeminently we are called upon to be quiet. There are some Christians who make a great noise. Their religion seems to be formed on the model of the earthquake, and the whirlwind, and the fire, and knows nothing of the ‘still small voice.’ They have to learn that in ‘quietness and confidence’ lies their strength. In these hurrying excitable days this is more important than ever.” Note he says, “Their religion seems to be formed on the model of the earthquake.” Would that not be a fitting description of typical “ministry” today? “Hurrying and excitable days.” I remember one older minister I knew who had seemingly lived his life like a tornado, supposedly because he was so ambitious for the kingdom of God. Yet he confided to me one day, “We have neglected prayer … and it shows.”

As Buxton quotes, God says, “In quietness and confidence shall be your strength” (Isa 30:15). I’m drawn once again to Martha and Mary. Martha was the living embodiment of Christian “ministry” today: busy, busy, busy, to the point she even told Jesus, “Make my sister help me!” Yet what was Jesus’ answer? “Mary has chosen the better part, and it will not be taken from her.” Mary “sat at His feet, listening to what He said.” In Martha’s eyes, her sister was indolent. “How can we get all this done, just sitting at His feet like that?” It made no sense to her – just like it makes no sense to us today. If something’s worth doing, then we need to be busy at it, even frantic – that’s how we’ll “get it done.” Yet God says, “In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” “Be still and know that I am God.”

I can still hear the “yeah, buts.” I’m sure Martha was full of them.

Can I say at this point, this is exactly why I study the Bible? Martha’s mentality makes perfect sense – to all of us, I think. And that is what we honestly think is right. Yet, if we pause over the Bible and actually ponder what it says, we find it teaches quite the opposite. As Elijah had to learn, “God is not in the tornado.”

I’m sure, for myself, this is part of my problem – why, even at work, I think I have to live in such a froth. I think the way to get “a lot” done is to go at it like a prairie fire. I think of the words of F.W. Farrar: “Let us remember always that the world is in God's hands, not in the devil's, and not at all in ours.” “In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” “For without Me, you can do nothing.” I’m reminded of Martin Luther who was reported to have said, “I am so busy today, I think I’ll spend three hours praying!”

“Be quiet and mind your own business.”

Yeah, but …

Sorry. No “yeah, but.” The Lord Himself tells us to make it our ambition to be quiet and mind our own business.

As I am trying to actually practice “being quiet,” one of the challenges I see is that other people expect us to live in a froth. Whether it is at church or at work, if you’re “really doing your job” you should be living at full tilt, busy from morning to night, feverish, even frantic. Being “quiet” runs the risk of appearing as if you’re doing nothing. Of course some people might say they’re being “quiet” when in reality they are in fact just lazy – but that isn’t what we’re talking about. I think it is a matter of learning how to stay quiet inside even as I do get done the things I must do. God still says, “And whatever you do, work at it with your whole heart, as working for the Lord and not for men …” (Col 3:23). God still wants us to be hard workers – again, I think the challenge is to learn to work hard while staying quiet inside. Working hard apparently doesn’t have to mean working frantically.

And of course there is the “mind your own business.” That is probably worthy of eight or ten posts of its own. But, for now at least, I feel like that is something I’ve been working on for years – to keep my focus on what I am or am not doing and not get frothed about what others might or might not be doing. I’m sure there is a great deal more for me to learn, but for now, and for myself, I know I really need to work on the “being quiet” part of this verse.

As I’ve said earlier, for me this last year has been a much more pleasant life, not worrying myself sick over every little disaster. But now, adding this element of “being quiet” has made these last few days even more pleasant. Can I say that these last few years I feel like I’m finally learning the things that really matter to God and the things that really change me very deeply from the inside out. The Lord is so good. As one young man exclaimed, “When the Lord got me, He got ripped off!” … Yep. Pretty much. But thankfully His name is Jesus, for “He shall save His people from their sins.” “He who begun a good work …” It is amazing to me how knowing Him, drawing near to Him, learning from Him doesn’t so much mean big, loud activity in my life, but rather the very slow, very kind, very gentle changing of the very depths of who I am, and changing me in ways that I myself am very thankful for – taking away my ridiculous immaturities and self-destructive habits. I only hope somehow I really am His message to the world written “not on stone but on the fleshly tablet of a human heart.”

He is soooo good. I wish everyone could know Him. Guess I’d better get busy “being quiet and minding my own business!”

I Thessalonians 4:11,12 – “Quiet”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

… But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more, ¹¹and to make it [your] ambition to live quietly, and to mind your own [business], and to work with your hands, just as we commanded you, ¹²that you might walk becomingly toward those outside, and [that] you might have need of nothing [or no one].

Oh, my! What a pleasant passage of Scripture! I have long loved these verses as they are so intensely practical and, if I may add, so completely contrary to what I think gets taught in American churches. Just think – God actually tells us to live quietly and mind our own business! I would suggest it is some kind of American idea that if you aren’t making “a lot of noise,” somehow you just aren’t what you should be. Maybe it comes from our advertising industry that incessantly barrages us with, “Look at this! Look at this! Buy me! Buy me!” Then we get the impression that is the way our lives should be – that somehow our faith should be being broadcast in some loud, emphatic way – that somehow we need to be living “loud?” Yet God says “Make it your ambition to be quiet …”

I want to stop and ponder this business of being “quiet.” This study has really helped me, I think. For years I had such a terrible problem with worrying. I knew somehow I should trust God but, every time I got hit in the face with some new problem, I would worry myself sick until finally the Lord accomplished His good and wise purpose, then I would kick myself for not trusting Him. “Why did you doubt?” Jesus asked Peter (and me), and I had to answer, “I don’t know! I don’t want to doubt You, but I don’t know how to stop!” After all those years of praying and studying, He finally took me to Psalm 111 and showed me Himself so clearly I finally could see past my fears and actually trust His goodness. My wife brought it to a glorious conclusion one day when she off-handedly remarked, “Today is just today.” In an instant, it all made sense to me, to simply trust God with my today, to live for Him and with Him in it, and to honestly leave tomorrow to His wonderfully wise and kind providence.

The last year or so has been a much quieter place inside this man’s heart – thankfully! I have always loved the story of Jesus stilling the storm. “Peace, be still,” He told the storm, “and there was a great calm.” I longed for years for Him to say to my storm, “Peace, be still,” and He finally did.

And it has been wonderful.

But.

I’ve known all the time there was more. Although the Lord has helped me (a LOT!) to put away the worrying, still I don’t do a very good job of dealing with the intensity of my everydays. I feel like most of the time I go to work and I have a completely impossible workload. I don’t know if everyone feels like that at work, but I know the other engineers at my office all definitely share my anxieties. We all feel like we work at light-speed all day every day but never get ahead. I often go to work feeling like I cannot possibly get all of this done, then get only more work as the day goes on. And home isn’t much better. I just can’t get it all done. “There isn’t enough of me!” I want to shout. “I can’t do it all!”

So … while the Lord really stilled the storm of worry in my heart, I’ve told Joan I am aware that somehow I’m still not doing well with handling this everyday problem of dealing with my (seemingly impossible) workload. Somehow, even if I have an impossible workload, I don’t have to work all day in this emotional froth. I knew that somehow that storm needed to be stilled. And so I’ve studied on, confident in my heart that sooner or later the Lord will show me something to help with this too, that He would yet still this daily storm that continues to rage in my soul.

And I think He has done just that – or at least started – with the simple words, “Make it your ambition to live a quiet life …” In Greek, it is simply, “Make it your ambition to be quiet …” I think it is a very good translation to make it read “to live a quiet life,” but it really helps me to know it is simply “to be quiet.”

Quiet. Calm. Peaceful. It reminds me of Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God.”

I don’t think anyone would question that the “quiet” and the “Be still” are primarily soul words, that they are not necessarily referring to how much “noise” you might literally be making. It’s what’s going on inside. We can be completely silent, not make any noise at all, and still have a storm literally raging inside of us. I think we could all agree the primary place where this “quiet” should (and needs to) happen is inside of us.

I think of Isaiah’s words, “‘Peace, peace, to them that are near and them that are far,’ says the Lord, ‘and I will heal them. But the wicked are not so. They are like the troubled sea which cannot rest, whose waters cast up mire and dirt. There is no peace,’ saith my God, ‘to the wicked’” (57:19-21). “Like the troubled sea which cannot rest” – that’s a pretty good description of what I’ve always found my heart was too often like. But to His people, Jesus says, “Peace I leave with you; My peace I give you … I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble; but take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 14:27; 16:33).

Quiet. That means not worrisome, agitated, fearful, discontent, restless, harried, or even quarrelsome, malicious, factious, covetous, or a whole host of other adjectives we could think of. I think for me, it would be the “harried.” To think that I don’t have to be harried means that even if I feel completely overwhelmed, I can still be quiet inside. Jesus has overcome the world. He’s in charge. He can handle it. He’s working all things together for good, for His great eternal plan. All of the days ordained for me were written in His book before one of them came to be. So, Don, just “Be still, and know that I am God.”

Quiet. That’s what I need. Inside. Quiet because I’m confident in my good, wise Lord.

Quiet.

Be still, O my soul.

I Thessalonians 4:9,10 – “Like Him”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

⁹But you are not having a need [for us] to write to you concerning brotherly love, for you yourselves are God-taught ones into the love (agape) of one another and ¹⁰for you are doing this into all the brothers in all of Macedonia. But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more,

I’m still pondering over this passage. As I related earlier, I think it is a bombshell, and I hate to leave it until it has detonated and done some significant demolition in my own heart. I have one idea of something I could do to move in the right direction. I’ll see how that goes.

But in the meantime, I want to ponder on the basic concept of “brotherly love.” I came across the word in some study I was doing years ago and its truth has really helped me a lot, so I’d like to scratch down some current thoughts about it.

In the NT, the word definitely got corralled to apply to the believers themselves, to fellow Christians; however, to a Greek speaking person, it was a word that applied to the “mutual love” that should exist within any group. Although sin has all but obliterated any real expression of this word, the one place you definitely see it is when a “group” – whether it be a family, a team, a community, a platoon of soldiers, or any other “group” – gets attacked from without. Usually the members of the “group” will suddenly and even viciously band together to defend each other. A family can be a most awful squabbling, fighting bunch of wretches until someone speaks badly of them – then watch them all suddenly pull together to defend each other. That is a natural expression of this thing God puts in our heart and calls “brotherly love.”

We all belong to many “groups:” our church, of course, is a group and our family too, our workplace or school, a club we belong to, our neighborhood or community, sports teams, etc., etc., and even within those groups we identify ourselves as part of sub-groups within those groups. From God’s perspective, “brotherly love” is something that should be present in all of our groups.

I think this is one place where the glory of the Gospel ought to shine in the church. John 3:16 tells us “God so loved the world that He gave His Son …” Our God very deeply and dearly loves people and, being made in His image, the only reason we don’t is because sin has so twisted our hearts and blinded our eyes. Everywhere we all go, although people can be (and often are) very nice, yet groups too often are spoiled by all the in-fighting and back-biting and people speaking so badly of each other, tearing each other down, tearing their leaders down, and just making their “group” a miserable place. How many families actually dread Thanksgiving because they “have to” see the rest of their family, whom they despise? How many people’s jobs are miserable because everyone there is so ugly and hateful to each other? As G. Barlow said, “The natural heart is selfish and cruel, and delights in aggression and retaliation.” Unfortunately these very words too often describe churches. And that is my point. This whole matter of “brotherly love” is one place where the glory of the Gospel ought to shine. A church ought to be one place where people could go and actually escape the misery of this world’s hatefulness. Even unbelievers ought to be able to see the love that prevails in a church. “By this shall all men know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.”

I would like to suggest this is a point of significant repentance for American Christians. We need to see that all the back-biting and meanness is not just “normal.” It is SIN and grievous sin at that. As Paul says in our passage, we are actually “God-taught ones” to love each other. I would suggest that the hatefulness that characterizes most churches is perhaps one of the great sins that actually turns people away. While we congratulate ourselves that we “stand for the Gospel” and hold all the right doctrines and have all the great “ministries” and sing “Oh How I Love Jesus,” yet what outsiders see is the in-fighting and back-biting and, because of that, they lose any interest they may have ever had in whatever it is we believe.

I would suggest we American Christians need to see our back-biting as very grievous sin and repent and, instead, see that it is our personal mission to promote love within our church. We ought ourselves to sincerely try to be loving to the other people of our church and to always speak well of each other, to build each other up, to build up our “group,” to support our leaders, and to make our church a haven of brotherly love in a very cold hateful world. If we think there is a problem with someone, we ought to handle it Biblically, by personally, prayerfully, humbly, and privately addressing the matter with them – with very deliberate love in our own hearts. What a different place our churches would be if we actually humbly submitted to Jesus’ admonition to “love one another!”

But, before I leave the subject, may I remind us all that we are the church. As we leave our church building and head back out into our world, we take the church with us. The church is us. What I mean is that, as we head out to interact in whatever “groups” we may be a part of, we still ought to carry the same commitment to brotherly love. No matter where we are, we should make it a point to love the other members of our group, to speak well of them, to build them up, to support our leaders, and just to be a dynamo of goodwill within that group. We can’t change other people. We can’t stop the other members of any group from self-destructing, but we don’t have to join them in it. Just by our words, our attitude, and our presence, we should be a force moving people toward respecting each other and seeing each other’s strengths rather than always being so consumed with each other’s faults. I think of Paul’s words, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Eph 4:29). Those words should guide us not only in our churches but everywhere we go.

And, once again, may I point out that God dearly loves people. “Brotherly love” is simply you and I seeing other people through His eyes. It’s not another “rule” we have to observe, it is the natural outgrowth of people who’ve learned to sit at His feet and literally let themselves get lost in the wonder of who He is. Jesus drew people with love. Beholding His image, may we all be changed into that image.

I Thessalonians 4:9,10 – “To Know Him”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

⁹But you are not having a need [for us] to write to you concerning brotherly love, for you yourselves are God-taught ones into the love (agape) of one another and ¹⁰for you are doing this into all the brothers in all of Macedonia. But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more,

As I related in my last post, I think it is a tragedy that modern Christianity (at least in America, the only place I know) has so far departed from its basic charge to love, and, in particular, in light of this passage, the charge to love each other. Jesus told His disciples to love each other and the early church did it so well, even the unbelieving sceptics marveled at them.

How could we have wandered so far? Could I suggest the problem is that we’ve lost touch with God’s heart? As a generation, we don’t seek Him with any vigor, and therefore we don’t find Him. I fear we’re too content with our church going traditions and simply don’t invest the effort to really know Him.

I sense this in my own heart as I look at this passage. It certainly wouldn’t be true of me to say I’m known for how much I love my fellow Christians. How could that be? I read Zeph 3:17 again, “The Lord your God in the midst of you is mighty; He will save, He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest in His love, He will joy over you with singing,” and can’t say I see other believers through those eyes. As I studied vv3-8, I realized I really don’t see the whole sex issue through God’s eyes. As I said there, I’m willing to just accept that sex outside marriage is wrong, but I realize I don’t really see it through God’s eyes. And then, in that passage it mentioned how God has called us to live a “holy” life. I’ve lamented before that I don’t think we really even know anymore what “holy” means. The Seraphim see God and cry out, “Holy, holy, holy!” Do any of us really even know what it is that so enraptures them? Really? They obviously know exactly what “holy” is and when they see it in God’s divine perfection, it moves them to cry out! Again, I don’t think we even know what it is.

So we don’t see other believers through God’s eyes, we don’t see the matter of sex through God’s eyes, and we don’t even know what holiness is any more.

So do we really know God?

I for one don’t think I know Him well enough. I’m ashamed that I don’t really know His heart on such basic issues as these. I’m ashamed that after 40 years of “knowing” Him, I don’t do a very good job of seeing the world through His eyes.

All I can do is tell Him that, tell Him I am genuinely sorry I’ve learned so little, and ask Him to help me truly know Him, know His heart, see the world through His eyes.

He deserves people who really, sincerely want to know His heart.

I hope I can become more that kind of person and maybe, if you’ve stumbled across these feeble scratchings, maybe you’d be encouraged too to pray to know Him better.

I Thessalonians 4:9,10 – “Yikes!”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

⁹But you are not having a need [for us] to write to you concerning brotherly love, for you yourselves are God-taught ones into the love (agape) of one another and ¹⁰for you are doing this into all the brothers in all of Macedonia. But we are urging you, brothers, to abound more and more,

Hmmmm. I actually think these two little verses are a bombshell … and I’m not sure what to do with it.

What do I mean? Note here Paul is commending the Thessalonian church for their very evident love for each other and for all the other believers in their country. Paul, and everyone else, could see this love. It was observable and undeniable. Such love for each other was a characteristic of not just the Thessalonians, but of the early church as a whole. One man wrote, “In the second century the scoffing Lucian declared: ‘It is incredible to see the ardour with which the people of that religion help each other in their wants. They spare nothing. Their first legislator has put it into their heads that they are all brethren.’”

What is bothering me is that neither Paul’s words in I Thess 4:9,10, nor the “scoffing” Lucian’s are true at all anywhere today (at least in America, which is the only country I know). Where is it true that believers are known for their love for each other?

I have long been convinced that in Jesus’ words to the church at Ephesus, “You’ve left your first love,” He was actually not speaking of their love for Him, but for each other. I know the entire church today, it would seem, preaches, teaches, sings about, and is quite convinced that those words in Rev 2:4 refer to Christians having lost their “first love” for Christ. But, if we let the Bible speak for itself, and ask the question, “What was the ‘first love’ of the Ephesians,” then go back to the book of Ephesians, we find the only love specifically mentioned was their love for each other.

In America, I’m afraid we have not “left” our first love (for each other), we never had it!

Where can we go today to find Christians who are actually known, even among unbelievers, for their love for each other? In all my life, I’ve never seen anything even remotely resembling such a thing. Churches are all about their services, about busy things they call “ministries,” about their “positions” on important doctrinal issues or, in the public arena, moral issues. But where could Lucian look today that would move him to say, “It is incredible to see the ardour with which the people of that religion help each other in their wants...”?

Paul’s admonition to the Thessalonians is to do so “more and more.” What about us who never started?

Frankly, it makes my head spin.

Jesus said, “By this shall all men know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.”

John later wrote, “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brothers. Anyone who does not love remains in death” (I John 3:14).

Yikes!

Where it all circles back to, of course, is my own heart. I have to ask the question, “Am I any different?” I don’t think anyone would say of me, “See how much he loves other Christians!!?”

How can this be? How can we truly know God and love Jesus and be so utterly devoid of what He says is the most basic outward evidence of His presence in our lives?

In Zeph 3:17, it says, “The Lord your God in the midst of you is mighty; He will save, He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest in His love, He will joy over you with singing.” I wonder if, at the root of it all, the problem is that we don’t see each other through those eyes? The Lord “joys” over His people “with singing.” That is not only talking about me, but about every single other person who is a believer. Do I see them that way? Are they “precious” in my sight?

Hmmmmm. I suspect there is some really deep festering I need the Lord to help me see and change. God in Heaven, help me to see the sin in my heart and repent of it. I can’t change anyone else, but at least change me.

Yikes!

I Thessalonians 4:3-8 – “Through His Eyes”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

³For this is God’s desire, your sanctification, [that] you keep yourself from sexual sin, ⁴[that] each of you know to acquire his own vessel (body, wife?) in sanctification and honor, ⁵not in a passion of lust just as also the peoples who do not know God, ⁶not to overstep and take advantage in the matter his brother, because [the] Lord [is][the] avenger concerning all of these things, just as also we said before and solemnly warned you; ⁷for God did not call us upon uncleanness but in holiness. ⁸Therefore, the one rejecting [this instruction] is not rejecting man but God who gives into you His Holy Spirit.

I’ve been pondering this passage for quite a while but don’t feel I’ve yet really gotten in touch with God’s heart. Sometimes it comes as I type, so I think I’ll just give it a whirl.

I could comment on the precise meaning(s) of the word porneia, which I’ve translated “sexual sin.” We also could join the debate of whether the “vessel” mentioned is a person’s own body or a man’s wife. We could also debate whether the “overstepping” and “taking advantage” is still talking about sexual sin (which I think it is) or whether it is just a general prohibition against harming others. However, since gallons of ink have already been spilled in those discussions, I may not take the time.

What really stands out to me and what I’ve been pondering is that, obviously, sexual sin is a really big deal to God. In the passage before us, it’s a matter of “sanctification and honor” versus “passions of lust” and “not knowing God.” It’s a sin of “overstepping” and “taking advantage.” It’s something over which the Lord Himself takes the position of “Avenger!” It’s something concerning which, even in his short stay, Paul had “solemnly warned” the Thessalonians. It’s a matter of “uncleanness” versus “holiness;” and we are sternly warned that rejection (more likely minimalizing, in our culture) of this teaching is a direct affront to God Himself. Finally, and probably the trump card is the fact that God has given to us His Holy Spirit – that in salvation, the very Third Person of the Trinity has taken up residence in the very bodies which we may or may not involve in this activity that so deeply offends God.

Woosh.

What bothers me is that, way down deep in my heart, I realize it doesn’t bother me that much. Of course it’s “wrong.” Every Christian knows that. It’s one of the Ten Commandments! Early in my Christian life, I learned to “look away.” All these years the Lord has helped me to stay away from pornography (for which I thank Him from the bottom of my heart). While we were dating, my wife and I took all of this very seriously and the first time I kissed her was when the minister said, “You may now kiss your bride.”

I think I can honestly say I’ve taken the matter seriously pretty much my entire Christian life.

But that has been from the perspective of simply, “It’s wrong.”

Somewhere I ran across the quote, “When men forbear vice, though they do not hate it, this may be the sinner’s motto, ‘Fain I would, but I dare not.’ Here is no change of heart. Sin is curbed, but not cured; …” When I ran across the quote, I copied it, because I thought to myself, “That is exactly what is bothering me.” I “forbear” the vice, but I “do not hate it.” As the writer says, “Here is no change of heart.” “Sin is curbed, but not cured.”

I guess what I am saying is that it simply is not enough for me any more to know what’s “right” or “wrong.” I want to know God’s heart. I want to see the “right” and “wrong” through His eyes. I want to see my life, my world through His eyes.

Up to this point, I don’t think I have ever seen sexual sin through His eyes. It’s just “wrong.” But again, way down deep in my heart, I don’t necessarily see what’s so “wrong” about it. At some point in my life I observed that immorality almost invariably hurts children – from the problems caused by unwed pregnancies to the effects of unfaithfulness on families – and so I reasoned that is a huge part of why God so hates this sin – because it ultimately hurts children while God really, really, really loves children. And I still think that’s true. More recently, our pastor has pointed out that sex is about the oneness of marriage and all sexual sin undermines that unique oneness that God intends. (By the way, I think he’s right and one way or another that thought will prove significant – when I do figure it out). But all of that said, I still don’t find in my heart the loathing of this sin which I know is true of God’s heart.

And that is what is bothering me. I want to see it through His eyes.

Once again, we could catalog all the pain and heartache sexual sin creates in this world. There are the sexually transmitted diseases people pass around, some incurable, and some, like AIDS, even fatal. Unfaithfulness has destroyed countless marriages, whether it was just the destroyed relationships or actual divorces. There’s not enough paper in the world to record the heartaches of children conceived/born out of wedlock and never knowing the security and warmth of growing up in a home with their own two parents, with their own full-blooded brothers and sisters. And we could go on.

All of that is horrible to recount, but does it pin down what God is seeing? I don’t think so, because a person could look at all of that and say, “You just need to be careful. As long as two consenting adults are careful, as long as they ‘use protection,’ as long as they aren’t married to someone else … what’s the harm?” Basically they could be saying, “As long as you guard against the potentially negative consequences, what’s so bad about it?” Right now my only reply would have to be “because it’s wrong.”

In a sense that is enough. It’s been “enough” for me for 35 years of marriage and it will be “enough” whether I figure out the “why?” or not. Obviously it is a big deal to God and I will go on making the fact that “it’s wrong” a big deal in my own heart and life. I love my God and if it bothers Him, then I just won’t do it. If it pleases Him that I keep my heart glued to my beautiful wife, then that’s what I’ll do. He showed me Prov 5:19 years ago: “…Be ravished always by her love.” As a young man and as I studied those words I found that “ravished” is a Hebrew word that literally means to be “intoxicated,” “to be unable to walk a straight line”, and “love” is actually “lovings.” Both the context and the verse itself are intensely sexual and I realized what the Lord was telling me was to keep myself crazy about this girl, to let my head explode over the thought of her, and that has been a huge protection to me all these years. As long as a man stays crazy about his wife, the rest of the world may be full of very beautiful and very alluring women, but who cares? I’m married to an angel who must have fallen out of Heaven! The thought of her sets off the Fourth of July in my head. The rest just really don’t matter.

But for all of this, still, in some sense, I am the sinner of whom the man wrote, “Sin is curbed, but not cured…” The approach of “It’s wrong” works I guess, but still, I wish I really understood God’s heart. I wish I could see it through His eyes.

This post is probably already too long, but, for the record, I want to consider I Cor 6:12-20. This is the most extensive passage I can find in the Bible where God is actually sharing His heart on this subject. It reads:

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Okay. Here’s the thing. These nine verses actually tell us what God thinks. We can set aside all our other “reasons” why we think “it’s wrong,” and just listen to God. Obviously, to me from this passage, in God’s eyes our bodies, in and of themselves, are important to Him, and He sees them as a tool by which we accomplish “oneness” – whether it be physically with another person, or spiritually with the Lord Himself. The problem with sexual sin is that it violates God’s plan for oneness. Apparently, “oneness” is extremely important to His heart, and He sees our bodies as tools to accomplish it. Somehow, sex is more than just two bodies together. Somehow it creates a “oneness” of the two people that, in God’s eyes, is more than what we see. Obviously, from the rest of the Bible, it is a very good thing within marriage, but it is very bad in any other context.

Hmmmmmm. I think that is it. I’m just not sure I really comprehend it all. I think I will just let those thoughts settle into my brain, that I will try to think on those things rather than just the “it’s wrong” as I have the temptations swirling around me all day every day, and see how it all develops. Maybe if I do, I can begin to see the whole matter through God’s eyes.

I hope so. His heart is always a big huge heart full of love. Knowing His heart allows me myself to have a bigger heart of love – even if that includes understanding the “wrong” in the world. Knowing His heart should allow me to be able to say “It’s wrong” while still loving people, even the ones who may be very “wrong.”

God give us Your heart.

All of My Days

I just turned 60 in April. This morning I ran across the following thoughts I typed at age 50. Interesting how, after 10 years, I've absorbed the encouragement into my life, but would not have remembered when or where I learned it. In the hope it might be encouraging to you too, I am posting it:

There is something I’ve been struggling with for quite some time.  At the age of 50 and looking back, I feel like I have made so many bad choices and have so many regrets.  I think when I accepted the Lord at age 22, I thought following Him would help me make good choices and I wouldn’t have to live with a lot of painful regrets.  But now here I am at 50 and sometimes the memories of it all just about suffocate me.  I would still like to think this isn’t necessary.  But I’m writing this with the strong suspicion that my problem is “common to man.”  Since we are sinners, it is probably inevitable that as the years go by we almost can’t help but accumulate a realization that we’ve taken too many wrong turns and then have to suffer the painful consequences we’ve earned and inflicted on others.

This is all, of course, acknowledged while at the same time being deeply grateful to the Lord for more blessing than I could have ever dreamed.  In spite of all my foolishness, I find myself “compassed about with blessing.”  I can’t argue at all that I am anything but enormously blessed today.  My years have been blessed with a wonderful family, with many really, really special Christian people, with good jobs with great people, with all these times when the Lord has taught and showed me, and all the times He has met me in the way with some little cordial of kindness that gave me strength to carry on.

But with all that acknowledged, still, there are these awful regrets, bad decisions, mis-guided choices, etc., etc.  What do I do with this ugly little monster that follows me around and relentlessly tries to steal the joy of all my blessing?

The Lord showed me something this week that really, really helps me.  It is found in Psalm 139:16:

All the days ordained for me
       were written in Your book
       before one of them came to be.

“All of the days,”  “before one of them came to be.”  They were “written in Your book.”

Every one of my days was ordained by God(!).  That includes the days when I was making bad choices.  In fact it even stretches back to before I was saved.  Talk about bad choices!  But even if God had to weave my bad decisions into the tapestry, still He has always had me securely in His eternal wise control.  Somehow, He knew He had to let me make those bad choices.  Somehow they either served to teach me something or get me some place where He could teach me.  Whatever was going on, it all adds up to His glory.  Of course, I’m still accountable for my bad choices. I still have to live with their consequences. I’m still sorry for how they’ve hurt other people. I still want to learn from them and make better choices.  But it is so encouraging to be able to kind of “sweep” my past “under the rug” of God’s goodness.  Somehow, in that light, the memories still hurt, but not in the depressing, joy-stealing way they have for so long.  Hmmmm.  The joy of the Lord is my strength(!).  That really, really helps.  “All of the days …”

He is so good.  How does any one live without Him?  Maybe I’m weird in that I’m always asking these questions, wrestling with these thoughts.  I guess whether I am or not, I do wrestle with them.  Whether or not I’m weird, I can say without a doubt that God is faithful.  He said, “Ask, and it shall  given you …”  “Call unto Me and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things you know not.”  One of the joys of my life is these times when the Lord shows me these things that not only answer my question but also encourage me so much.

Thank you, Lord.  You are so good.  Do help me make better choices.   But most of all, help me to see You, to love You, to trust You, and to let You be my joy.  You’re awesome.

I Thessalonians 4:3 – “Your Wish Is …”

As always, here’s my fairly literal translation of these verses:

³For this is the will of God, your sanctification …

I’ve been studying this passage all the way down to verse 8. As a unit of course it is addressing the issue of sexual purity, but I’d like to pause at the gate, so to speak, and record some thoughts about these first few words. And I don’t believe my thoughts at all extraneous to a proper understanding of the whole passage. Here’s what I’m thinking:

“The will of God” – what kind of images do those words conjure in your mind? As a Christian cliché, of course, we can all act like the words are a warm fuzzy, talk about it, preach about it, sing about it. But I think to too many people, the real truth is that the words invoke thoughts of harsh rules, of God’s sternness. Even at the head of a passage about sexual purity, it’s easy to see it as, “Okay, now God’s going to lay down the law. Everybody straighten up. No more fun.” “The will of God” – ultimately He’s the great “Cosmic Kill-Joy.” I strongly suspect from listening to and observing other people and from tracing the progress of my own spiritual growth, that this underlying attitude is a huge part of why so many even Christian people give so little attention to the Word and invest so little of their hearts in actually knowing God. Hopefully I can explain what I mean.

What is this verse really talking about? The Greek word for “will” here is a noun form of the verb thelo, which fundamentally means “to desire.” There is another Greek word boulomai which is a very close synonym to thelo, but means fundamentally “to purpose.” Even in English, the two thoughts significantly overlap. If I “desire” something, or wish it, that very easily spills into “purposing” or resolving that I will do it. On the other hand, the normal reason I “purpose” to do something is because in some way I “desire” or wish it. So the two concepts significantly overlap. However, even in English, they do not mean exactly the same thing. I can “desire” something, but for whatever reason, choose not to pursue it. On the other hand, I can resolve to do something, even though I personally may not find it desirable. (That of course happens all the time at work!) So, although intimately related, there is a difference between “desiring” and “purposing,” and I hope to show that understanding the difference is integrally important to our relationship with God.

Now, I need to (quickly) inject here the acknowledgment that I am on very thin ice. If a person does any amount of research on their own on these two words, thelo and boulomai, “desire” and “purpose,” they’ll find a good deal of what is written which would say they are essentially synonyms, that there is no difference in meaning. I beg to differ even though I’m reminded of John Eadie’s words, “Interpretations are generally false in proportion to their ingenuity.” I have been watching the two words for nearly 40 years and, in every occurrence I have ever observed, if you let the two words retain their distinctive meaning, the passages would make perfect sense, in fact even better sense. And so, deeply aware of John Eadie’s warning, I remain convinced what I’m saying is true – though very similar and possessing considerable overlap, the words are different.

“So what?” you ask. Well, the phrase “the will of God” in the Bible invariably is the word thelo, and so could be translated, “the desire of God.” When the word occurs in the Bible, whatever He’s talking about, He hasn’t necessarily “purposed” anything. It is expressing His desire, like when Paul told Timothy the Lord “wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth” (I Tim 2:4). It is expressing His desire, not necessarily His purpose. What we’re talking about with the “will” of God is actually understanding His heart. As a person who has been captivated by His grace and love, when I hear the “desire” of God, I immediately want to know what it is and I’ve already embraced it, whatever it is, because I love Him. This is relationship stuff. I would like to suggest, the idea of “the will of God” being a stern list of all the harsh do’s and don’ts comes from a heart that isn’t loving Him. When we’re in love, it isn’t hard to say, “Your wish is my command.”

I’d like to reinforce this with some more word study. One verse that really demonstrates this is Hebrews 10:7, which is a NT quote based on Psalm 40:8. In the NT it says, “Then I said, ‘Here am I … I have come to do Your will.’” The “will” here is a thelo noun. This of course is Jesus speaking, and He is telling the Father that He has come to do His will. What He is saying is that He has come to do what the Father desires. Again, it is a “Your wish is my command” sort of expression.

This is even more apparent looking at the verse in its Hebrew original in Psalms. There it says, “I desire to do Your will, O my God; Your law is within my heart.” “Will” in Hebrew is the word ratzon and actually means “pleasure, delight, favor.” Jesus is saying to the Father, “I desire to do whatever pleases and even delights You.” And what is even more interesting is that the word translated “desire” itself speaks of delight. Jesus is saying, “I delight to do Your will.” It is the Hebrew word kafatz, which, as a verb, means “to delight in, to be pleased with, to desire.” And it even goes a little deeper than that. TWOT says, “In the case of kafatz, the object solicits favor by its own intrinsic qualities. The subject is easily attracted to it because it is desirable … [the word] means ‘to experience emotional delight.’” Jesus is saying He Himself sees the Father’s will – what the Father desires and delights in – as something very desirable and delightful to Him! The verse could be translated, “I delight to do whatever delights You.”

I hope by this point, anyone reading this can see that what is going on here is an intense love relationship. This is not the expression of a groveling servant bowing to the commands of His harsh, demanding king. The people who know their God find in Him an ever growing love relationship and, the more and more we see how good and wise He is, the more we realize that whatever He has planned, whatever He wishes of us, is not only good, but actually desirable and even delightful! We delight to do His will. We delight to do what delights Him. As it says in Psalms 1:2 of the godly man, “His delight is in the Law of the Lord.”

Back to our passage in I Thessalonians, Paul announces, “This is the will of God for you …” As he goes on to explain exactly what that is, will we hear it groveling or will we hear it with hearts wide open, eager  and even delighted to hear whatever it is that our good, loving God wishes of us?

Once again, it is all about relationship. Grace sets us free to fall into the arms of this wonderful Savior God and King. Grace means life is simply not about some list of rules we must bow to. Grace means it is about knowing the heart of my Lover and actually finding delight in whatever He desires, conforming my life to what I know He wishes. Love means His wish is our command – and we’re happy about it!